Have you heard that question before? I have, and not just once. I am sure it is meant to be flattering, but all that it is, is an indication that something is wrong with you. Some use it as a compliment, others used it as an opening phrase on a date…
Let me think…
I have no kids, so it cannot be the full package that is scaring them off. Or maybe it is that most I meet already have kids, and they are afraid that I want to start a family.
I am financially set, and do not have expensive habits. Well I was financially set, until I recently quit my job. And before that I had 7 years of being single with financial stability. Or maybe a guy need to feel needed, and I am too independent?
I am not Miss Universe. But neither is the majority of the population. I have good days when I feel great, and that my looks are above average. Then there are the bad days when I am looking at the ugly duckling in the mirror.
I am not Miss Sporty either, but I have not gain much weight since I was twenty, so how bad can it be? I am not found of climbing mountains which seem to be the trend these days, so maybe it is my hobbies?
The answer is no… I do not know why I am still single… I am not outstanding, nor appalling.
Maybe it is that I do not stick out in any way, I am not special enough? But who is really unique in the mass of today’s society? Have we not realized that we are all unique but yet the same?
The only thing I am left with then is my personality. And I can right now tell you that there is plenty that is wrong with my personality, as it is with most. It could be that. I am at least thankful that I am not a drunk and I do not have a gambling problem.
It may be chemistry, timing and maybe compatibility. Or is it that my luck is failing me? Maybe faith has put a black spell on my path? Or is it all that is mentioned?
So why are you single?
Is there an intelligent answer to that question?
Some people actually give you the answer. Like; you are single because you chose to be. You do not want a boyfriend. Then they are just skipping the question part. Instead they are being kind to let me know what is going on.
Why do they think that? Do they think that I woke up one morning and decided that I do not want the warmth and love from another person? Or that I prefer lovers, instead of being in a relationship. Is that how I present myself? Or does the fact that I am happy as single mean that I will not be happy in a relationship?
So let me ask you, because your guess is as good as mine. Why is it, that it is me that is the single one?
Does my answer really matter?